Comments on: How A Single Guy Can Find A Swingers Club

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 13:01:38 +0000

There’s a book out for single guys who wanna be swingers called Swinging and the Single Guy:

http://www.swingingandthesingleguy.com

It’s full of great tips for male swingers and it’s cheap!

By: saurav

saurav — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 08:51:53 +0000

I have my own Apt how many woman would be interested and how many men/couples

saurav

By: saurav

saurav — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 08:01:23 +0000

Hi. All ,,
i am ready to join the swinger club, am SINGLE,
Saurav gupta

By: Fab

Fab — Tue, 12 May 2009 05:25:44 +0000

I have my own Apt how many woman would be interested and how many men/couples

By: Sabina

Sabina — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 18:40:31 +0000

Do you have your own apartment? If so, I second the suggestion that you host a sex party yourself.

By: Mia

Mia — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:13:38 +0000

I think you are a member of the Pleasure Salon. If not, join. The last one I attended I met several folks who have private sex parties at their apartments. Happy Swinging!

By: Wendy Blackheart

Wendy Blackheart — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 00:50:47 +0000

@Calico – Exactly! Man, if I had my own place, I’d have sex parties. In fact when I move out again, I want to have a housewarming toga-party. Which I’m sure will then become a sex party. Toga! Toga! Toga!

By: Calico

Calico — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 22:56:27 +0000

Interestingly, I have never been to a swingers’ party. I’m scared of the heavy-handed flirting and grossed out by the gender politics. I’ve been to BDSM-focued sex events and places (Floating World, The Citadel in SF — both of which I would highly recommend) but I haven’t actually had sex at either of them.

Like Wendy said, it’s about private parties — friends, not strangers. Unless you want to have sex with strangers at clubs. Personally, I want to have sex with my friends. I am lucky enough that some of my friends enjoy organizing parties. It is harder in the city, though, just because of space and noise constraints.

If you have lots of friends who want to go to sex parties, throw a freakin’ sex party! It’s nothing magical. Every sex party is made up of a bunch of people who said “Wouldn’t it be cool if we could all throw a party where we have sex?” And ta-da, party! All you need is an apartment.

By: Miscellaneous Sex

Miscellaneous Sex — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 18:01:02 +0000

There is one club in New York that caters to single men (http://www.clubcasbar.com/) on Friday night. It’s $90 to go alone or $40 with a date. But akin to your first experience at Paddles – it’s really nothing like your fantasy. If they allow single men, expect it to be predominantly single men. Like 80-95% men. Desperate men. That’s been the case at every single one I’ve been to. Also expect that swingers clubs to have older, not so attractive people, heavy handed flirting, and be cliquey and couple oriented. Some are of course better than others. Honestly, I just don’t think you are going to particularly enjoy the experience of a swinger’s club.

Private parties though are a *whole* other story.

By: Wendy Blackheart

Wendy Blackheart — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 06:23:35 +0000

If you want to go to sex parties, become friends with people who have ‘em. I started going because I was introduced to someone who had them, and who felt like I’d get along with the other people and would mesh well. Plus, I brought bagels and shmear. That goes a long way in getting yourself invited back.

Its either that, or pay out the nose.

BTW, keep in mind that not all the people who go to sex parties are hot pro dom looking models. Most of the are normal hot people, like me. Flabby thighs, weird tattoos, and various styles of pubic hair and all.

Also, swing/sex parties aren’t magic. You won’t walk in the door and get laid. You’ve got to talk to people, and flirt, and ask. Stuff doesn’t just happen.