Theres so much I didn’t know about Margaret Cho, like she used to do phone sex, her views on consent and more. What I’d give to have her on the Masocast to dive deeper in some of these stories.
Thoughts
A New Masocast: #159 for the Downton Abbey Crowd
#159, man I can’t believe I’ve done 159 of these things.
Had a great time talking to Matt, another great guest from the UK.
We talked about his early experiences in the London Kink scene, his long term relationship with his partner and how their D/s has changed and evolved over time, chastity, the nuance of protocols, how to handle an adventurous kink life while still being a good parent, role reversal and a whole lot more.
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For The Long Haul
2014 was an amazing year.
We got married.
Several times a week, sometimes several times a day I’ll look at Sade and say with disbelief, “We’re married!”.
“We are”, she’ll assure me with a smile.
After surgery, these past few months have been the hardest we’ve experienced, more stress and frustration that we ever would have imagined. Sade and I both working harder and longer than we ever have. But we’re playing the long game. There’s purpose to this hard work.
It sucks right now and if you were to tell me the world would end next month I’d be pissed that I spend 2014 working as hard as I did.
But we’re in it for the long haul and things are looking better.
My recovery from surgery improves bit by bit, slower and slower. Last week I was able to kneel to the floor and help Sade out of her shoes for the first time in months and it felt so good.
Bit by bit
And we’re married now. She married me and I’m still blown away by it all. Despite all of my faults she’s willing to be with me.
For the long haul.
Thanks Joe
There’s a Joe Cocker song that fits into just about any part of my life that matters.
Not The Caning I Wanted
Well I did it, I had the surgery, spend 4 nights in the hospital and I’ve been back home since this weekend. Laid up and for the most part useless.
I wont know for a few weeks if the surgery worked but in the meantime the doctor has ordered I dont bend, twist or lift..anything for a few weeks. Yeah, a few weeks.
As a result our roles have changed a bit.
Sade now asks me if I need anything. I still ask her but what I can provide has been limited to what movies and TV shows I can download for her.
I can’t even shower without her being in the apartment since tripping would mean an immediate call to 911. After she helps try off the huge wound on my back, put on new dressing for the wound and helps me get dressed.
Yeah, I can’t even put my clothes on by myself.
It’s terribly frustrating for me not being able to do much of anything for her while at the same time she has to do almost everything for me on top of everything she need to do for school.
I walk with a cain too. Currently shopping for one that looks a bit more debonaire than the one they give you at the hospital, I’d settle for a Fred Astaire or Charlie Chaplian model. I even looked over the ones Sade has and though in the past I’ve felt them and though in Sade’s hands they could stun a team of oxen in their tracks, in mine I cannot walk with any of them.
Just a month or two and I’ll be able to do much much more, a month or two after and I’ll be able to do everything again.
Until then I’m laid up, in pain and frustrated. Frustrated that I can’t help myself much less Sade.
The other morning Sade was helping me put my pants on when I apologized to her.
“I’m sorry, this is not what you signed up for when you married me”.
Her repy?
“This is exactly what I signed up for.”
I could have cured cancer, made world peace and solved world hunger and I still wouldn’t have done enough to deserve her.