Yeah, as if I don’t express myself enough right? A blog, a podcast and now I’ve been asked to take part in a discussion.

Don’t worry, I won’t be yapping alone. A few other people have been asked to be in the TES discussion on June 23rd as well.

Here’s the description: The 30-40 Wasteland: “The BDSM community doesn’t lack for members of the older set. TNG too thrives. But what happened to our members between 30 and 40 (give/take a couple of years)? Is there a reason that this population is scarce and what can we do to bring them out more? Join us for a discussion and hopefully suggestions for a solution.”

Yikes, that’s a big topic. The problem is that I could blabber on and on about why this is true and still not give you the reason why.

I really have no clue. I know that I only go to a few events these days. Certainly fewer than I used to. Is it because I only see the same people over and over and while I like most of them, I’m looking to meet new people? Is it because most of the women into BDSM won’t ever consider themselves in “the scene”? Has the internet made it easier to meet people without needing to go to a club or event?

One theory I’ve heard is that people will explore in their 20’s, settle down in their 30’s, then get divorced and want to explore again in their 40’s.

I have no clue but if you could leave a comment or shoot me an email with your theory I’d love it. The more the merrier, maybe I’ll bring up your comment at the discussion.

If you can make it to the discussion please say hi. This will only be the 2nd time I’ve been on stage with a group of people as part of a discussion. I have a tendency to feel like I need to entertain and therefore make an ass out of myself.   

I’ll try to curb that desire.

This week is the big NYC Fetish Marathon. Event after event after event. I’m planning on making it to at least three or four and thought I’d write about the ones I’m planning on going to to support those who go to all the trouble to make a space for people to meet and have a good time:

First up (and I know it’s late notice) Midori is giving a presentation on the Art of Sensual Feminine Dominance. At first I was thinking “hmmm it would be a great way to meet women who are into that” but that sounded a bit creepy. However, when my best friend wanted to go as well, I figured I now have a non-creepy excuse to go.

It’s Tonight (Tuesday) at the Museum Of Sex, 7:00 sharp.

Friday night my friend Mistress Didi is putting on a Fetish Stimulus Party. More details here. Didi’s parties were the first I ever went to and thankfully they were so good that I stayed in the scene. She really went out of her way to make me feel comfortable and this party is sure to be another event where you can meet new people in the scene. Plus if you say you saw it on Unspeakableaxe you get free admission! Ok it’s free admission for anyone who goes no matter where they saw it.

Then there’s the twice-per year Smack.

Plus Suspension on Sunday.   

Whew….busy busy week.

If you’re in New York City and are looking for Kink/Fetish things to do. This is you’re week. There are other events going on as well. If you know of some of note that I missed here, feel free to add ’em in the comments.

Oh and if you see me, feel free to say hi.