For those of you who kept emailing me and asking who it was that inspired my thank you post.
The answer can be found here along with photo evidence.
I should write another thank you post to her.
Friends
Helping My Dominant Guy Friends
I am hereby vowing to only post positive posts for the rest of the month. As suggested by Eileen.
I’ve been chatting quite a bit with Bad Man lately. After I made a comment to him regarding the number of submissive women I run across on Nerve, he asked if I could pass alone the usernames of the women who emailed me hoping that I was a dominant. He’d pass along the any dominant women he came across as well. I’m always up for helping a friend so I’ve passed along the usernames of the women who confided in me that they were submissive. I don’t consider it a violation of their trust, if anything I’m helping them find a dominant guy.
I have changed my profile though so it shows more of my submissive side so I doubt I’ll be getting as many emails from submissive women.
I know a lot of submissive women. I’ve set a few up on dates with my dominant friends. There are a few dominant guys I know who will come up to me at an event and ask “Pssst, hey, do you know her?” hoping that I can introduce them.
It’s tricky thing to setup a dominant with a submissive however.
One dominant friend of mine who’s into the more D/s relationship side of things says that most of the submissive women out there are “do-me” subs. Meaning that they’re not as interested in pleasing and serving as they are about getting dominated the way they want to be dominated. I suppose the same could be said for many submissive guys too though.
My matchmaking skills aren’t all that good when it comes to setting up kinky friends. I’ve helped a number of my friends meet others for hot sex or hot play but nothing that resulted in a relationship.
I don’t know many submissive guys however but every time I’ve tried to setup a one of my female dominant friends with one of my submale friends it’s always been a bit awkward.
“Why in the hell would you ever think he and I would be a match?” one friend asked me.
I defended myself, “I don’t know, you both like art”.
It was clear that this was not enough for her, “He’s not a masochist, he can’t hold a conversation and he’s got a penis the size of an eraser”.
“Ok first of all, why would I have a clue how big the guy’s penis is, not to mention his pain threshold , but… Wait, you still played with him even though he couldn’t hold a conversation?”
“Shut up.”
It’s for this reason that I don’t setup my dominant female friends anymore. I just don’t know many submissive guys.
As for my dominant male friends, I’m always keeping an eye out for them.
TESFest Recap
I just walked in the door from TESFest.
A few highlights:
-I learned I can’t go to a CBT class for a number of reasons. I have no desire to see another guys junk, I’m a bit uncomfortable seeing others in pain and part of me starts to feel a bit jealous.
-At nights I would walk though the dungeon area for a few minutes to see if there were any women who looked like they wanted to play but everyone I was attracted to was busy tying someone up, getting tied up or standing with her boyfriend so I went to the bar for a beer. Rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat.
–Tilda seems to get cooler every time I see her. Any woman who owns leather converse is a rock star in my book. I tend to “borrow” her confidence whenever I’m around her.
-My best friend bought her first bit of hemp rope from Jocasta. She found two boys to practice on and was beaming after every time she played. Her favorite class was presented by Boymeat and is now planning on getting into electro play.
-One woman (whom I’m always feeling shy around for some reason) suggested I buy a cock ring. I never would have done it but when an attractive woman suggests it and even takes you to the vending area to buy it, one can hardly resist. I was a bit embarrassed when she was talking to the venders about it but was also trying to cover up my obvious arousal.
-I managed to walk by another one of my good friends as she was beating some guy up in the dungeon. It looked so intense I was surprised everyone else didn’t just stop and watch. Normally I’m busy trying to make her laugh, now I’m starting to think I need to get her angry.
–Lolita may have sensed my desperation because she went out of her way to talk me up to one very attractive woman. For a second I thought she may have actually been interested until I realized she had her submissive with her already. Still, it was nice feeling while it lasted. Lolita is the only person I know who could have pulled off being my “wingman” while wearing Mickey Mouse ears. Note to self: Find out how Lolita got her superpowers.
–Calico pinched my butt as I walked by one morning! I thanked her for it of course and was tempted to keep walking by her every time I saw her.
-Rita Seagrave is awesome-tastic. I’ve never been to a presentation like hers before. Can we get an All-Rita cable channel?
–Viviane suggested I take a class on seduction. I’ve never had bad advice from her so I took it. The presenter offered some good advice even though I felt like most of the stuff would work better for me if I were dominant. I did notice a few things I’m doing wrong and perhaps things I need to cover up about my personality. I’ll write more about that later.
-I’ve had a number of emails asking if I used any condoms over the weekend. I have them for sale if anyone wants to buy some unused condoms. They’re out of the box so I’ll offer a discount. I’d return them to the drugstore but I doubt they’d give me a refund, maybe store credit.
I’m Not A Man. Wait, What?
A big thanks to Funkybrownchick for writing about how she likes submissive men. Granted she only likes submissive men to be “slightly” submissive (she doesn’t want to hurt them) but it’s still nice to know there are women out there who can see a submissive man as someone who’s still a man. I’ve started to ponder what the difference is between a submissive guy and a slightly submissive guy. That’s for another post.
It’s been something like four months since I’ve been intimate with anyone. The last woman I was with set the bar pretty high so it’s not like I don’t have some wonderful memories. Still…it would be nice not to miss her. It would be nice to meet a distraction or someone to fill the void.
After hearing about a number of my kinky female friends meeting open minded people on okcupid.com, I decided to revisit my account. I’ve sent a few emails but most of them are replied by submissive women.
On the bright side, at least I do get email replies on Okcupid. Even though most aren’t exactly ego boosting.
Here’s one reply I received:
“I read your profile and i’m kinda confused,i’ve never met someone who admits that he want a dominant woman,i thought that man wants to be man. in my past relationships my partners were the dominant ones,but maybe that was the problem:)but i’m dominant at work so i need balance in my life.”
“Have you tried to be a dominant person in a relationship or you alwys were the submissive?In my opinion every normal woman wants to be the submissive in a relationship.”
Yeesh I don’t even know how to respond to that one. I just sat there reading it over and over with my mouth open.
I’ve also opened up a free account on fling.com. There is one catch though, you can’t even read your emails unless you pay. That’s how they get you.
I’ve got a number of emails from women just sitting in my inbox and I can’t read them. What if they’re from the Domme of my dreams? Of course each email lets you see who the email is from and wouldn’t you know they’re all fetish models.
They also claim to have a “hook up guarantee”. If you don’t “hook up” with someone after three months, you’ll get three months free. I can’t seem to find what they consider a hook up though. I’m looking and looking and can’t seem to find the fine print on this deal.
It can’t be any worse than adultfriendfinder, collarme or alt. At least the women on OKcupid will email back.
Rejection is sometimes better than being ignored.
Sometimes.
My First Trip To The Nude Beach
I went to a nude beach for the first time in my life this weekend.
I have one question. Where the hell are the frolicking coeds?
Aren’t there supposed to be frolicking coeds at a nude beach? I mean, that’s why you go to the nude beach right? For the frolicking coeds.
Despite the lack of lounging, playing, swimming, pondering or any other type of coed, it was nice day trip with one of my best friends. She was easily the youngest and most attractive one there so she was getting plenty of guys smiling as she walked by them.
A comedian once said that most of the people you see at a nude beach are people you wouldn’t want to see naked in the first place. I’m not saying this is true. I’m just sayin’.
Lots of old guys.
There were a few attractive women there with their boyfriends/husbands. I wished I had brought a bucket of chum with me so I could toss it in the ocean when their boyfriends went swimming. Hell I don’t know if there are many sharks in the area, but it was my only plan of action.
How do you approach a naked woman on the beach? You can’t compliment her on her shoes or her dress. “Say, nice…. areolae you got there.”
I went with one of my best friends. As always it’s not what you’re doing but the company you keep. When I’m spending time with someone like her it doesn’t matter what I’m doing. She’s one of those people that makes everything a blast.
Driving back through long island was a bit stressful though. I’m not used to driving through traffic and I like to take over driving duties for my friend. It’s a form of service in a way. My stress through the traffic was a bit obvious and she always likes to remind me that I need to stop being a country-boy and start being a cool city-boy.
A few photos from my day-trip:
My first trip to a lighthouse too. Fully clothed of course. Here I am looking for a wifi signal for my Iphone. No, I’m not that much of a geek.
Beer!!!